MENTORING
FREEDOM IS POSSIBLE.
Learn to fight differently.
Christian mentoring and practical resources for men struggling with pornography.
If trying harder were enough, you probably would have stopped already.
You’ve confessed. Prayed harder. Made promises. Put accountability in place. And still found yourself back in the same cycle.
You don’t need another promise to try harder. You need a better way to fight.
THE PROBLEM ISN'T THAT YOU HAVEN'T TRIED.
Trying harder isn't a strategy.
You know the cycle.
You give in. The regret hits hard, and you promise yourself—and maybe God—that you’re done.
This time I’m serious.
And you are.
You pray harder. Try harder. Put boundaries in place. Maybe confess to someone.
Things get better…
until temptation comes again.
Eventually, willpower runs out.
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SHAME
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REGRET
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RESOLVE
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TRY HARDER
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REPEAT
What if the problem isn’t that you don’t want freedom badly enough?
What if you simply haven’t learned how to fight differently?
THERE IS A DIFFERENT WAY.
Lasting freedom requires more than trying harder.
Pornography isn’t just a behavior to stop. To experience lasting change, you need to understand what’s happening beneath the surface and learn what to do when temptation hits.
That’s why Deep Waters approaches the fight from three directions:
ADDRESS THE HEART
Understand what’s beneath the behavior.
Porn is often doing something for us.
It may help us escape, soothe, numb, cope, or find relief.
Learn to recognize the emotions, triggers, wounds, beliefs, and patterns underneath your struggle and bring those places into relationship with God and others.
TRAIN THE BODY
Build a system stronger than willpower.
Good intentions aren’t enough when temptation hits.
Learn to remove access, build healthy daily habits, prepare for predictable moments of weakness, and practice clear protocols for what to do when you’re tempted, triggered, or struggling.
FIGHT TOGETHER
Stop fighting alone.
Secrecy gives pornography power. Connection begins to take it away.
Learn how to build honest relationships, practice proactive confession, pursue meaningful accountability, and let other men into the fight.
Address the heart. Train the body. Fight together.
Not another promise to do better.
A different way to fight.
REAL MEN. REAL CHANGE.
Men who once felt stuck in the same cycle have learned to fight differently and experience real change.
“Ken really helped me understand both my emotional state that was undergirding my addiction to pornography and the habits that were making it harder to find lasting freedom. I’ve discovered a ton about myself through his mentorship, and I’ve been able to establish habits and practices that have led to lasting change.”
— Former Mentee
“It was during my time as a member of a mentoring group led by Ken that I finally saw what it would take to grow out of this addiction and the hope that I could truly have. Ken never sugarcoated anything or made me feel terrible but instead truthfully told me what I needed to do to grow and encouraged me along the way.
Due to God’s faithfulness and Ken’s presence in my life, I am now over two and a half years free from pornography usage and masturbation.”
— Former Mentee
“Partnering with Ken through using the 5-week course to help students break free from pornography was an incredible blessing! From the thoughtfully planned meetings to the daily check-ins, the course guided participants on a purposeful journey, leading to increased understanding, hope, and freedom. Having walked alongside individuals struggling with pornography for many years, I found partnering with Ken and this program to be extremely beneficial!”
— Pete Bullette, Director, Chi Alpha at UVA
READY TO START FIGHTING DIFFERENTLY?
There’s more than one way to begin.
Whether you need help getting unstuck, ongoing community, personalized mentoring, or a resource to help lead other men, Deep Waters gives you a practical next step.
30-DAY CHALLENGE
I need to get unstuck.
Thirty focused days of teaching, accountability, practical action, and brotherhood designed to help you stop guessing and start fighting differently.
THE WORKSHOP
I want ongoing support.
A place to keep learning, stay connected, ask questions, and fight alongside other men committed to sexual integrity.
DEEP WATERS COURSE
I want to help other men find freedom.
A video-based group course for churches, ministries, and leaders who want to walk men through the Deep Waters framework. You lead the group; the course provides the teaching and structure.
1:1 MENTORING
I want personalized help.
Work directly with Ken to understand your story and patterns, build a personalized game plan, and have someone walk closely with you through the process.
NOT READY TO TALK YET?
Start here for free.
A practical first step toward fighting pornography differently.
Learn why willpower alone keeps leaving you stuck—and begin building a different approach to the fight.
I'VE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE.
For more than ten years, I struggled with pornography and masturbation myself.
I wanted to stop. I confessed. I tried accountability. I made promises. I genuinely loved God—and still found myself returning to the same patterns.
What eventually changed wasn’t that I finally started wanting freedom badly enough.
I learned to fight differently.
Through God’s grace, biblical truth, practical wisdom, and the help of other men, I began to understand what was happening beneath the surface and build a different way of responding to temptation.
I’ve now spent years walking alongside other men in this same fight.
Deep Waters exists because I want you to know something I desperately needed to believe when I was stuck:
Freedom is possible.
QUESTIONS? LET'S TALK ABOUT THEM.
Is Deep Waters counseling or therapy?
No. Deep Waters is Christian mentoring, not professional counseling or therapy, and isn’t intended to replace mental-health treatment when that is needed.
Do I have to be a Christian?
No. You don’t have to be a Christian to work with Deep Waters—but you should know that the approach is explicitly Christian. My faith in Jesus shapes how I understand freedom, identity, grace, confession, community, and lasting change. I won’t hide that or separate it from the mentoring process. You don’t need to have everything figured out spiritually, but you should be comfortable engaging with a Christian approach.
What if I've been struggling with pornography for years?
Deep Waters is designed for men who have often tried repeatedly to change. How long you’ve struggled doesn’t determine whether change is possible. The goal is to understand your particular patterns and begin learning a different way to fight.
Which Deep Waters option is right for me?
Generally: 30-Day Challenge = focused reset; Workshop = ongoing support/community; Course = complete framework; 1:1 Mentoring = personalized help.
What if I'm not ready to talk to someone yet?
Start with Stop Trying Harder. It’s free and designed to help you begin understanding why your current approach may not be working and what you can do differently.
FREEDOM IS POSSIBLE.
You don’t have to keep fighting the same way.
Whether you’re ready to work with someone or just ready to take your first step, you can start fighting differently today.